Obviously this woman knows absolutely nothing about dog training, so who cares what she thinks about how you train your dogs?

Now you know, so next time meet her at the door, take the gifts (including the rawhide) out of her hands, thank her and put them somewhere she cannot easily find them to give to your dogs. And maybe put a "do not open" sign on your dogs crate (assuming you cant put it somewhere that is not easily accessible.)

(People are frequently harder to train than the dogs ))
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lots o dogs

With regard to letting your Dobermann out of her crate, if that had been my dog I would have been extremely annoyed that someone disregarded by express wishes & at that point would have taken her to one side & asked her to go home & sober up.

I wouldn’t continue to make excuses, but politely & firmly state that you don’t agree with the concept of doggy play dates & are obedience training your dog so she’s very clear in her head what behavior is expected of her & obeys commands first time every time, regardless of environmental distractions.

At 8.5 months old your Dobermann is still in the rapid growth stage of its skeletal development & will almost have reached its adult height by twelve months old. Over exercising a young Dobermann can cause serious long term damage to the joints, so I would advise no longer than 45 minutes exercise a day. By one year old, my Dobermanns were taken on one hour walks, but no impact exercise such a jogging, running or agility.
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They say alcohol actually releases your inhibitions and shows who you really are.

That being said I think Sue showed who she really was and what she really thinks of you.

I guess if having well behaved dogs makes one a Nazi, then I am one also.

Personally I do not associate with people that drink like that, so right there she would be out of my life. Now with her making those rude comments and showing what she really thought it would be time to kick her to the curb.

You know there are plenty of nice people out there to have friendships with.
I would move on to someone more worthy of my friendship.
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Adult with a lot of life experience

You are a responsible dog owner – you have worked hard to train your dog and "Sue" needs to take a hard look at your dog’s behavior vs. her own dogs.

Several years ago, I had a party at my home. My Champion English Bulldog was in heat and I would bring in my other dogs so she could get some exercise and relieve herself. This couple came to the party and were eating and socializing when the mentioned that they brought their Bassett Hound mix to "visit" and had turned her out in the backyard. My husband and I both bolted for the door and it was too late. I had to take her to the vet and because of that, she had to be spayed. I was disgusted and this couple couldn’t understand why I was mad – they said that since we were "dog people", they thought we wouldn’t mind.

They paid for all the vet bills, because I told them I would take them to civil court if they didn’t. Obviously we are no longer friends. In the long run, you have it easy so far, but set your boundaries now.
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Breeder/Trainer/Exhibitor for 25 years. Sit on Board of Directors for local animal shelter.

Remeber People My opinion.
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With that in mind, I would be very upset with the actions at the party, from the rawhide to "Sue" mocking you for actually being a responsible dog owner. I am sorry that your little girl is now sick from this woman’s irresponsible actions, even if they were well-intentioned.

From your description of "Sue’s" dogs, and what she considers decent dog behavior, I don’t think you’ll be able to get through to her about how you’re working with your dog. While I completely understand your feelings over this, it might be best to let it go and try to avoid the situation in the future.
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